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Titus Arrius's avatar

I wonder if everybody thought that everybody else was more confident, more self assured? We do tie ourselves in impossible knots over that sort of thing.

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Deborah Brasket's avatar

I think you are right about that. It took me a while to unravel all those knots. Wouldn't it be nice if we could go back in time with the knowledge we've gained and do it over? Although I think we have to go through all those struggles to gain what we learn later.

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Rachelle's avatar

wow..

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Deborah Brasket's avatar

Thank you, Rachelle!

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Julie Dee's avatar

“ I do not feel young now. But neither do I feel old. I feel somewhere in-between, swaying cozily in some hammock strung between the two. It feels wide open. I don’t feel the years bearing down. I don’t feel something precious slipping away.”

Beautiful. In the moment. Keep swaying x

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Deborah Brasket's avatar

Thank you, Julie.

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Julie Gabrielli's avatar

So much of this resonates with me. As the youngest of four and always the youngest at school, I have a "youngest" mentality. Even though, quite often, I'm the oldest person in the room now. I am thankful that tentativeness and anxiety has faded into what I imagine confidence feels like.

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Deborah Brasket's avatar

Thanks Julie. It's comforting knowing others relate. I've always felt like a late bloomer, but I don't mind it at all now. I needed to be there to get here, and I like here very much.

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Frank Garnick's avatar

Excellent piece, Deborah. As the father of 11 children between 9 and 28, this felt so very personal. I woke up this morning, for the first time, as a divorced man and I face this new chapter with both optimism and fear. This was a good read for me today.

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Deborah Brasket's avatar

Thank you, Frank. Eleven children! I can't imagine that. Two were as much as I could handle, although I suppose had I had more I would have adjusted. We all do with whatever is given us. I'm glad this was a good read for you today. So often I find in reading others' newsletters just what I needed too, so I'm happy to return the favor. I hope your forward journey will progressively be filled with more optimism than fear, my friend.

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