What a lovely work, especially that ending - ugh! "If we think love’s easy or should be easy, that it won’t have radical mood swings, won’t lift us up and throw us down, won’t drift away when we’re not attentive, won’t wither if we’re not feeding it, or spring back, full and fresh, when we water it with patience and kindness, then we don’t know love at all. And maybe we can’t know it, until we live it, and let it live in us." Quaking & Shaking!
Another great piece that peels back the layers of love and the hurdles we all face in a lifelong relationship. I don't feel that I have the right to comment on your relationship, other than I am happy that the two of you eventually found a sense of purpose and balance that allowed you to move forward. And, as complex emotions, egos, and personalities are always involved in relationships, there will always be difficult moments (not to mention other things like communication, stress, finances, etc.). The hard part is always to work through them and to be able to move forward as one.
I love your honesty as you write about your search for truth and love in a lifetime of shared memories (good, bad, and everything in between). Thank you for sharing with us, Deborah!
Thank you, Michael. And thank you for sharing this on Notes. Yes, our relationship is very complex to say the least. But we've found a way to "balance" our differences over the years. The main thing is the sense of trust and respect. The love is there too. But without the trust and respect love flounders.
Three cheers for your husband, Deborah. Not many men would behave as he did in that situation. And three cheers for you, too, for giving him another chance to rekindle your relationship and your love. As Gibran tells us:
It was pretty remarkable. It was the basis for the renewed love that came. Thanks for sharing more of Kahlil's poem. I still get so much from revisiting The Prophet. I love what he says about children too.
I have followed your series and meant to comment last week on this one. Let me leave it at I was shaken a bit at what you wrote b/c I see parallels in my own life. I appreciate your honesty. Life is full of surprises. Thank you for posting this.
I read this just after watching a video on how Emmy Noether developed the law that where symmetries exist there is a law of conservation.
This law was then automatically, in my mind, was applied to the symmetries of you and your husband within the cone of your existence together.
However, anticipating your next chapter, the laws of conservation exist within your—you and your husband—frame of reference and may not exist when the frame of reference is changed.
The world may turn but it does so in an expanding universe with increasing acceleration and where energy dissipates.
How interesting, Jim. I'll have to look for that video you mention to better understand what you mean here by "symmetries" in our marriage and how they may not exist when the frame of reference is changed. I love the idea of an expanding universe but I don't believe that energy dissipates, it just changes form. If you can expand on how this relates to our marriage, I'd be interested in learning more.
Please forgive me. When I respond after waking up I just let my thoughts go to wherever they want to roam.
I am not claiming to have any special insight into your psyche but only reacting to what thoughts are born in my psyche after either reading, seeing, touching or smelling something.
What a lovely work, especially that ending - ugh! "If we think love’s easy or should be easy, that it won’t have radical mood swings, won’t lift us up and throw us down, won’t drift away when we’re not attentive, won’t wither if we’re not feeding it, or spring back, full and fresh, when we water it with patience and kindness, then we don’t know love at all. And maybe we can’t know it, until we live it, and let it live in us." Quaking & Shaking!
I'm glad you liked this, Cody. It's been fun writing this series. Thanks for coming here and sharing your thoughts. It means a lot.
Another great piece that peels back the layers of love and the hurdles we all face in a lifelong relationship. I don't feel that I have the right to comment on your relationship, other than I am happy that the two of you eventually found a sense of purpose and balance that allowed you to move forward. And, as complex emotions, egos, and personalities are always involved in relationships, there will always be difficult moments (not to mention other things like communication, stress, finances, etc.). The hard part is always to work through them and to be able to move forward as one.
I love your honesty as you write about your search for truth and love in a lifetime of shared memories (good, bad, and everything in between). Thank you for sharing with us, Deborah!
Thank you, Michael. And thank you for sharing this on Notes. Yes, our relationship is very complex to say the least. But we've found a way to "balance" our differences over the years. The main thing is the sense of trust and respect. The love is there too. But without the trust and respect love flounders.
Three cheers for your husband, Deborah. Not many men would behave as he did in that situation. And three cheers for you, too, for giving him another chance to rekindle your relationship and your love. As Gibran tells us:
"But if in your fear you would seek only
love’s peace and love’s pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover
your nakedness and pass out of love’s
threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you
shall laugh, but not all of your laughter,
and weep, but not all of your tears."
It was pretty remarkable. It was the basis for the renewed love that came. Thanks for sharing more of Kahlil's poem. I still get so much from revisiting The Prophet. I love what he says about children too.
I have followed your series and meant to comment last week on this one. Let me leave it at I was shaken a bit at what you wrote b/c I see parallels in my own life. I appreciate your honesty. Life is full of surprises. Thank you for posting this.
You are so welcome. These parallels is what brings us together and makes these offerings so valuable.
Yes, good point, Deborah. To see your story reflected in someone else’s story is encouraging.
I read this just after watching a video on how Emmy Noether developed the law that where symmetries exist there is a law of conservation.
This law was then automatically, in my mind, was applied to the symmetries of you and your husband within the cone of your existence together.
However, anticipating your next chapter, the laws of conservation exist within your—you and your husband—frame of reference and may not exist when the frame of reference is changed.
The world may turn but it does so in an expanding universe with increasing acceleration and where energy dissipates.
How interesting, Jim. I'll have to look for that video you mention to better understand what you mean here by "symmetries" in our marriage and how they may not exist when the frame of reference is changed. I love the idea of an expanding universe but I don't believe that energy dissipates, it just changes form. If you can expand on how this relates to our marriage, I'd be interested in learning more.
Deborah,
Please forgive me. When I respond after waking up I just let my thoughts go to wherever they want to roam.
I am not claiming to have any special insight into your psyche but only reacting to what thoughts are born in my psyche after either reading, seeing, touching or smelling something.
No worries. I always find your responses interesting. They stimulate thought.
Thank you. Your narrative was stimulating my thoughts.