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For me it speaks very much of being in the moment. So much of life (including sex) is spent thinking about the ‘what next’. It’s a dot to dot of sorts. First base etc

To experience higher love making is to lose oneself in another person, join and become them. The cliche ‘one’.

Similarly, to experience a higher lovemaking with the universe is to become of it rather than noticing it. You move as a part of its sway and grind, and that is the higher connection as I see it, at least.

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I like that, moving as part of its sway and grand. I see it as that way too. Becoming part of it, as it becomes part of you. Both together.

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'You are the butterfly, and you are gone'

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D. H. Lawrence was filled

with the holy longing

He gave us his vision

in Lady Chatterley's Lover

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You are so right. I wrote something about that very thing on another site, Speaking of Erotica https://deborahjbrasket.com/2015/02/26/speaking-of-erotica/. Here's an excerpt:

I am seeking something that stimulates and satisfies in a deeper way than what I’ve found so far. A story that explores, perhaps, at least to some degree, both the sensual and spiritual nature of desire, arousal, and consummation. After all, sexual and spiritual pleasure, power and transformation are parallel journeys on the road to fulfillment. Both are precipitated by strong human desires for union with the Other. Both, arguably, are what shape us as human beings.

Each journey involves deep longing for something beyond the individual self. Each requires trust and receptivity, surrender and self-sacrifice, tenderness and devotion. Each gives way to passion and delight, awe and wonder, ecstasy and bliss, love and transcendence.

Each seeks the Beloved.

I can’t help thinking that the first journey, that’s seeded in sexual desire for oneness, is what prepares us for the second, to step outside ourselves into something that subsumes us. And I can’t help believing that the two journeys can overlap or coincide. That the parallels between them have deep significance.

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How beautifully you express

the two journeys!

I believe both are spiritual journeys.

Sex is spiritual.

Whatever goes on that isn't spiritual

is pseudo sex.

Phony.

Not only worthless

but destructive

of deep and true intimacy.

Damaging to the tender soul

who yearns to unite.

It is a tragedy

that the majority of people

are addicted to pseudo sex.

Never know the real.

Never even know it exists.

Lawrence had great courage

not only to declare the existence

of genuine spiritual sex

but to sing its beauty

and its centrality to our lives.

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Thank you, Deborah. Yes, I see it as a spiritual journey too. It's in a whole different realm than the one-night stands, the sex that takes place between people who aren't truly committed to each other.

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